Getting your Flowers isn’t always a good thing:

I think we can all remember the saying to give me my flowers while we are here but what does that really mean? Often times we are looking or seeking out the validation of others in who we are, what we should be doing or just a simple confirmation instead of facing the truth of what may lie in front of us.

Let me take you back to a moment in my life where all I craved was flowers. Flowers from my husband, my job, friends and family. There were times that I did receive those flowers and had to ask myself did they even blossom.  How you say? Well lets explore I got flowers from my husband as he cheated so the flowers were only to make up for the transgressions during our marriage, but because I received those flowers I stayed. Too Transparent?  This is a truth though that we are all to familiar with when it comes to being betrayed by someone we love only to get flowers to stay in a misery because we received those flowers. I know that was a lot but let that sink in an move on to another example.  Moving forward to another moment in my life where I and many of us feel the need to receive our flowers. Our job… Yes the one place we dedicate the most time too, neglect our loved ones for, remain loyal to, sacrifice our health and sanity at times, yes that place. I can remember a time craving for the flowers to be given to me from my employer too, thinking they should/would show me the same love and loyalty I have given them. The money I saved the company. The employees I saved. The employees I helped develop and promote. The extra time I spent pouring into them. Surely they would give me my flowers. Year after year I was left feeling empty waiting for flowers from the ones I felt owed them to me only to be left disappointed with this feeling of inept when no flowers came. Why did I feel they owed me flowers? I had to really ask myself that question as I then made my next move to decide that I would give myself my flowers and  become a successful Business/Financial Coach Would I have been able to see that i could bloom on my own. See the fact that they did not give me my flowers led to me leaving to go blossom somewhere else where my worth would be appreciated and not depreciated. Sometimes we ask for flowers only to forget that if they had gave us our flowers, we would have never been able to truly blossom and become who were meant to be because we would have simply appreciated flowers given to us but with no grwoth.  Remember if you have to ask for flowers or they were not given to you with care then go pick your own..